Nobody can predict what will happen after a break up. However, it is anticipated that you will feel sad and devastated. It is as if you were betrayed and you’re left powerless. This is true to those who didn’t see the break up coming.
If the split up happened unexpectedly and you still harbor strong feelings towards your ex, then you should avoid trying hard because it will only push her away. Instead, here are some things that you must do.
1. Do not call her or send her any messages
Frequently calling her will only make her pissed off. Instead, you should never effort to retell with her in any forms. This will surprise her because she is not expecting that you will be doing this to her. You’ll see that she’ll be the one to set in motion the communication after days of not talking to her.
2. Clarify to her family that you are sorry but do not ever retell with her
Send a note or a message to her family that you are sorry about what happened and that the break up occurred. However, do not retell with her directly. This will make her wonder what you’re up to and she will try to talk to you.
3. Meet up with tasteless friends
While you are trying to avoid her, it would be best to still remain good friends with the habitancy that join together the two of you. This way, you’ll sneakily be able to get news or updates about her. Aside from that, these habitancy will also be able to help you in patching up things to give your relationship someone else chance.
4. Never force her to reconcile with you
Even if you wanted to fix the relationship as fast as you can, it is not advisable to do it swiftly. You need to take things slow and be able to understand that you and your ex need to breathe some space before reconciling again. Aside from that, forcing her will just scare her, mental that you are too desperate.
5. Remain cordial to her
Despite not communicating with her, you should remain cordial to her. When you happen to come over with her, you can greet her in a cordial manner. You don’t have to show that you were very excited to see her. You just need to show that you aren’t mad or you aren’t fully ignoring her.
6. Do not neglect yourself
For you to be able to get her back, of course you should not neglect yourself. While you are not trying hard to pull her, you need to make efforts to make yourself desirable so that she will be the one to chase after you. If you can increase your popularity among other women, then do so. She’ll regret that she broke up with you after that.
7. Let her do the introductory move
Of course, since trying hard on your part will push her further, then let her do the introductory move to patch things up and make your relationship work once again. It may take quite some time but once she misses your presence, she’ll surely do something about it.